Gestures
and body movements/language are all powerful tools of non-verbal
communication and they reveal a lot about an individual. These
tools are as effective as our words, and even more effective
in today's hurly burly business environment. It has been observed
that there is no other gesture so commonly made and at the
same time poorly understood as the "four-second ritual";
the handshake. It is the most important silent non-verbal
gesture one makes. Therefore, it becomes highly essential
for every individual to become more sensitive and more aware
as well as observant of the various motions, gestures, contacts,
and other aspects of body language that surround us every
day. Handshake is the first interaction between two people
and it plays a critical role in establishing a relationship.
It
is a fact that shaking one another's hand is the most common
behavior that is widely prevalent and accepted across all
the cultures of the world. Though in some cultures it is followed
by hugging and even kissing, the first and foremost importance
is given to handshakes. It is the first observation that two
individuals make of each other upon meeting. According to
Phyllis Davis, Founder and Director, American Business Etiquette
Training Association (ABETA), "The handshake is a theatrical
pleasantry that is warm and friendly. It is meant to create
human connectionduring an introduction and reinforce their
connection when you bid a farewell."
The
custom of shaking hands dates back to as far as 2800 BC in
Egypt, even though some folklore places its inception much
earlier. In those days, most of the people used to carry daggers
and other weapons in their hands in order to protect themselves
from enemies and wild animals. Upon meeting those who had
peaceful intentions, people held out their right hand in a
gesture to show the other person that they were without any
weapons and were open for peace. The other person then used
to do the same and they would both grip their respective hands
tightly until they were certain that the other one had no
intention to harm anyone. |